compulsive lying

We broke up. The boys would have stuff all over their faces, and clothes, and look at you in the face and say “I didn’t do it!”, and you would say “But it is all over you,” and they WOULD STILL continue to say “I didn’t do it.” They are 45 and 41 now, and to this day they continually lie multiple times a day. (hes only 20 years old). I would love nothing more than to die right now. She’s lied about being sexually assaulted (multiple times by multiple people). I don’t drink or do drugs anymore & haven’t for 10 years but I still have great difficulty meeting my responsibilities like an adult, & I need to be honest about this with people who matter to me & who are my supports in addiction recovery etc, but I’ve been lying to them so long about things that matter, that I’m scared to own up to them. I think it is very easy to want to help this person because he has such an unethical problem. I heard all of these things from my mother before I was in the seventh grade (middle school). She was the lucky one. But I don’t want it. PS…David isn’t my real name. Because I don’t want to disappoint her and I hate the confrontation and arguments the truth will bring. If my partner tells me its daylight,I will go outside just to check….I am dealing with a man who when we met,was the absolute love of my life and now,a year later,im dealing with a man who cheats over and over on me,lies about everything from where he’s been,who he has been with etc etc etc…when confronted his anger is immediate even when I have 100% proof that whatever the “lie of the moment” is,is infact completely untrue or half untrue….I stay because I love him (although what I considered to be unconditional love on my behalf,im not sure I can actually maintain) I went through 13 years of getting physically abused by my dad, 7 years of bullying in my last two years of elementary school and 5 years of high school, and then if my sisters did something wrong I took it upon myself to step in and take the beating as well as I did not want them to go through the pain so i had to coerce my dad to take his anger out on me and beat me up. 10 years ago I could have written this verbatim as my own story. or, I went to Yale! I spent 5 years with a man who lied so much it ultimately ended our relationship. He would take pictures of some people’s houses and expensive cars and post them on facebook and tell them its his. It got to the point where I stopped going into work completely for no reason and planned to lie my way out of it like I had 15+ times in the past, but was so lazy that I never ended up saying anything. He is not capable of that level of creativity (yet) so he just went there to impress you. Does anyone have any ideas on how to speak with him? I try and be very not judgmental, but its hard!!! My wife and I fear that he is headed down a bad road of this. Contact your physician who will most likely give you a referral for a psychiatric evaluation by a psychiatrist or psychologist. She went to such elaborate lengths to convince you her lie was the truth, but if I can be frank you seemed to have made it easy for her to do. People around her see her for who she is, and tells her kids that people don’t like her because of bogus reasons, and makes herself the victim! he says nothing new, still on the job search but that one option looked particularly promising ! I have found Buddhist Meditation to help a lot…not so much the religious side, but the meditation part, which requires certain, internal, personal changes (ethically). As a result of not being included in the DSM-IV, there is no actual diagnostic criteria for a compulsive liar. I suppose you’re right, because knowing him, he would certainly deny lying. I don’t know how to stop. You’re not exactly sure what he’s suffering from but you’re determined to fix him? She says but I got a bad vibe off him he drank a lot. There were days I would sleep and I woke up in pain beyond what I can explain and felt the pain of metal or leather still hitting my body. Most of us are not bad people. I kept lying my way through my teens repeatedly caught by my mother and few others who I completely distanced myself from due to embarrassment. It gives me hope that he is really a good person with a bad problem. Some psychologists believe a person’s environment plays a large role in compulsive lying. i’m wondering if she saw something).he says she broke up with him because she lacked the right social skills (that she, being a doctor, has spent her entire life studying– socially dysfunctional etc..). Why does the happiness radiating from her feel like there’s something unresolved beneath it? Believe me, sometimes when I encounter someone who has a serious lying problem, there is that thought of “Why did they even lie about that? He fabricates lies about me to anyone worth saying something positive about me. I don’t exaggerate my accomplishments either. it makes me look like a complete idiot because months of ridiculous lies have been exposed. My husband ran into the individual who had been so lied to and she asked about the suicide that did not happen. So long story short this went on for years till the point where oldest daughter one night became very violent because dad turns off tv because chores weren’t done. I’m probably going to hell for all my blasphemy’s, I mentally manifested my own nightmares. TELL your family and friends up front about the issue. Therapy? Iv lost a few friends with the lieing but it’s not like I make a big fabrication up about my life, it’s just the lieing to people about my house twice I have done this and I don’t know why I’m doing it again and facing evication again we are sup to learn from our misrakes but Iv not and reading this tonight had really helped me realise I have a problem. Yet there are professionals within the mental health community who classify the terms as subtly different conditions. ​While compulsive lying disorder is actually not included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV), except as a symptom of factitious disorder, many psychiatrists and psychologists consider it a distinct mental disorder. You cannot understand why the compulsive liar lied at all! No, I did not ask you how much your check was before deductions you idiot! I felt bad I couldn’t pay rent so moved back in with my parents’ hoarder house with my abusive father and my mom ( don’t get me started on her). Im lying because… my father and my mother divorced when I was 3 years old. etc. I have one I totally can’t understand. Compulsive lying issues can affect the lives of persons who tell the lies as well as those around them, thus the tips above are a way to deal with it effectively. However, when the dishonesty and false endeavors fail to impress those around the compulsive liar, their self esteem sinks even lower, which causes more extreme fabrications to come to the surface. Compulsive liars engage in dishonesty because it is their automatic response to questions and situations, while pathological liars do so in order to manipulate other people and achieve their goals with complete disregard for the feelings of others. Im not a horrible person, but it really feels like it sometimes. I tend to lie quite a bit. Am I wasting my time? Stop lying period. I feel sorry for her. this disorder. I am a professional! People who lie pathologically may mix falsehoods with the truth to make their lies more credible. His father had a lifetime of dementia and was on lithium his entire life and his mother is also mentally unstable. I have a daughter who lies. I really want to stop but for some reason I cant. I am lost, I can’t trust him anymore but I feel sorry with his condition. However, compulsive lying has been observed more in case of repeat juvenile offenders, with an incidence of 1 in 1000. Hafsah, But then I had to realize that some people lie about major things all the time because of their illness. For example, I will see lunch meat bag opened in the refrigerator, which would cause the meat to go bad. I lied about the littlest things and also told big lies I knew something was wrong with me and it was out of character i’m so glad that I have realised that I have this condition, it’s horrible to watch people who you care about suffer because of you and your lies but I know life is full of lessons and you need to be strong. It hurts me too much, I got the same feeling like yours now. This is really hardened my heart. Telling the truth always is my policy, i wouldn’t have it any other way. Compulsive lying disorder,  also known as pseudologia fantastica or mythomania, is a condition that describes the behavior of a habitual liar. He now has this obsession where I have affairs all the time. He would lie about everything. He just fails in so many departments of what being a good friend is. I saw beyond his lies/delusions whatever it is he has and I wanted so much for him to be happy. Eventually, as trust builds back up with my parents, I end up lying again, usually worse than the last one. In these cases, a therapist will likely treat all a person’s issues in tandem. Most importantly, only you can do this for yourself if you truly want to change. It seems she does this to make her seem much more intelligent than I. They are my hole world. It was hard to grow up not have to ability to talk to my mother about anything. They hurt so much and have seriously affected my self esteem and confidence. Firstly by the fact that your anonymous pseudonym has been admitted to be a ‘lie’ (which, oddly, was actually a ‘truthful’ admission) and, secondly, by taking such care to write your statements here you have declared your self-condemnation – undeserved self-condemnation. He left home @ 16 and spread horrible lies about being abused unloved etc,he even told people he was adopted but was so cluless cause his brother worked at the same place… duh how can you not get caught? My mom lies about what state she was born in, because she’s embarrassed of being born in a southern state. Obviously, as a friend, I wanted to support her and believe her… but so many people around me were skeptical of her stories, and now I am too. I just told my ex/friend to never call me again. Who could make up such an enormous lie? He told me that he will never lie again. I don’t want to confront him because I don’t want to embarrass him and make him feel more insecure, which is probably the main reason why he lies a lot in the first place. I married my wife in 1967 and although I had previously recognised her readiness to lie to me I had absolutely no idea that such a readiness to tell lies had complicated psychological terminologies. They will lie at every opportunity, even if it is absolutely unnecessary. I have lost many friends and some family too. It was horrible . Someone asks what I did over the weekend, I’ll make up a winding and long story that has absolutely nothing to do with what I did. I reached out to other women to find acceptance and attention. I don’t even know if he ever truly loved me or not. I’m 18 years old and I just finished my first year of college. Perhaps the question should be “do I trust him enough to marry him?”. Send help!!!!! As soon as the “new” people left and we were around my family, he talked until their ears bled. I don’t care how stigmatizing that sounds. The only solid thing I’m sure of is I hate hurting people which doesn’t make sense. Lies. I am confident that I deserved everything I suffered at her hands because I was involved in bad things involving others too. Im very sick and he still steals, constantly lies about everything, constantly eats and drinks alcohol.

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